Where are you at?

We cannot always have control over our immediate circumstances.

Or of how life unfolds for us, but we can choose our response to what happens, there is always a "gap", that momentary instance, that split second between an "event" and your choice of response to it.

It's in that gap, that "where we are at" is revealed to us, in our choice to react, to blame, or to catch our self and choose how we wish to respond.

It's also where we find and claim our power.

If it remains “their fault” then you have relinquished your power, you have no power.

You have transferred the power of responsibility to the other and lost it in yourself.

Until we stop blaming the "other" or "pointing the finger", we will continue to disempower ourselves and remain in unnecessary suffering.

This is where we step into self-empowerment.

It's an ongoing journey, not always easy, but always worth it.

Every time we make the effort to intervene, to disrupt, our old patterns of unworkable "victim mentality based behavior" we help to tip the balance back in favor of an ongoing sense of self-awareness and self-empowerment, which begins to establish the habit and with persistence becomes "second nature".

There is a balance to be found here because we need to allow, to embrace, to feel and to accept whatever is going on for us on an experiential level, as opposed to immediately pushing it away or denying it,  we need to give it time and space.

We learn to hold it yet not keep spinning it round and round in our head to the point that it becomes negative mental and emotional patterning and thus detrimental in the long run.

When we find ourselves facing and playing out an old negative reaction to someone or something, instead of looping the same thoughts, again and again, we need to learn to shift our focus, bring our focus to your breath, then ask ourselves how you can we reframe this picture?

How can I reframe this picture?

Can you put yourself in the shoes of the other? can you find a new place of understanding or compassion? If you can't shift the particular dynamic in your mind, where else can you put your focus? find something positive, clear or purposeful, refuse to continue to entertain the negative pattern.

Choose to shift it now, and then just do it.

The first step to reinventing yourself is knowing that you can.

The second step is to make the effort.

Do it now.

'Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom'

Victor E Frankl